How to begin the process of living consciously?

The secret that changes EVERYTHING!

Hello there and welcome. I am excited to have you on board. This is the beginning of something marvellous. Here is what we will cover in this article:

As I grew up and went to school my uniqueness and passion for life got lost. I accepted what was expected of me and due to me wanting to be accepted and loved I tried to fit in. I became passionless and felt like I have very little control over life. I thought I had to go and live the life that other people expected of me. I did not even realize that there was another possibility.

When I was around 16 years old I came across people who were living passionate lives. These people had a purpose, they were following their calling. Their lives were adventurous and fun. They were taking control and against all odds doing the impossible.

I realized that if I don´t figure out what I truly want I am destined to live a passionless life. Next I understood that committing myself to life long learning and creating a vision for myself is absolutely crutial.

I started to think about what it is that I wanted and why I wanted it. I also began to question why I thought I wanted the things I wanted. For example I said I wanted to be financially free. Only when I started digging deeper did I realize that it is not really the money that I want but the associations that I have with it. In my case it is having control over my schedule, working when I want, how I want and with whom I want.

Now what can possibly be so important about creating a vision??

Essentially developing a vision means that you set the direction for your life. Most people do not do this. Yet why is this so? One reason is that we were never taught why this is important and how it can be done.

As we grow up we take on the beliefs and assumptions of those around us. We assume that how the people around us live and conduct their lives is the best way to live life. The truth is that very few people in this world are thriving. Most people accept the limitations that were placed upon them and settle. Yet if you are reading this it shows that you want something more from your life. You are not content with being average, you want to be, have and experience more!

Think about the following. Every person you meet is choosing to live their lives in a certain way. Yet did it ever dawn on you that we never get a user manual regarding what life is and how it works? Most of what we learn happens from those around us, yet how do we know that the people we know have life figured out? How do we know we are living life the best possible way? And what does that even mean?

Without a vision we automatically set ourselves for the least common denominator, which is living a life in mediocrity. Truly thriving is only possible when we are living consciously. This means we are making an effort to design and construct our lives. It means that we are pro active in relation to our thoughts, emotions and behaviours. A vision allows you to be proactive in living life. You are no longer at the mercy of those around you, and instead are able to take control.

Consider this: from very early on people in society tell you who you are (or at least what other people think you are and deserve). We are told what we should be doing. Nobody actually sits down with us and makes us aware how much power we have through our ability to make use of our free will. Living mindlessly and conforming sucks our energy. On the contrary having a vision for our lives is exciting and motivating because the motivation is intrinsic.

Our minds are constantly constructing reality. If we don´t take conscious control over this process then we will simply act out the programs that we have been conditioned with during our upbringing. We live a certain way, but it does not truly feel fulfilling and neither are we happy with the results!

Deeply contemplate what it is you actually want and why you want it? Have this question within your field of awareness constantly. After some time you will realize that you have never actually questioned many of the things you engage in on a day to day basis.

Essentially it boils down to you asking: What do I want and why do I want it. I encourage you to go deep, really deep! Most people don´t know why they want what they want at a deep level. They have never given this question much attention. Sure they may have thought about it once in a while, yet very few human beings actually contemplate this question on a regular basis.

Important is that you go beyond the surface. You may write down certain material possessions you want or skills you want to develop. No matter what you write down, always know that it not necessarily about the thing you wrote down, but rather the feeling that you associate with it.

I´ll give you an example so this becomes clearer. One of my goals is to become fluent in Portuguese. I will write this down as one of my goals. Then I´ll ask myself why I want this. I will discover that learning to speak Portuguese fluently gives me a feeling of achievement because I had to persevere in the face of challenges. Also I want to achieve this goal because it allows me to be more communicative during my travels in Portugal. Another reason is that learning Portuguese is a way of channelling my energy constructively and it has lasting value. By lasting value I mean that achieving this goal is something that stays with me for the rest of my life.

Let´s make this process of creating a vision more concrete. Sit down with a journal (it can be digital or in paper form). At the top of the page you write the question what do I want and why do I want it. Then you brainstorm all the different areas in your life that are important to you and create a list with bullet points of these different areas. For example: Career, Finances, Intimate relationships, friendships, hobbies, learning goals etc.

Next to all of these areas you write down what you want and why you want it. Also ask yourself: “what would ideal look like?” Once you have this established you ask: “what specific action steps can I take to move closer towards my goal?”. Categorize these into yearly, monthly, weekly and daily goals.

Also I highly suggest you create a vision board. For that you go to canva.com and use about 5–10 pictures which you add into one pictures that represent you ideal life. Here you can add pictures that represent the life you want to be living. Create it in a way that feels good to you. Make it compelling and in a way that it resonates with you emotionally. In addition choose a few songs that represent the feeling of your ideal life. To make your vision more real, make sure to add various sensory elements to it. Ask yourself: How does my vision taste like? How does it smell like? How does it feel like? What colours does it have? What sounds does it have?

Then print out your vision board and put it somewhere so that you can see it every day. Ideally you create a daily ritual for yourself where you sit down in silence in front of your vision board and visualize your ideal life.

Over the last couple of years I have made powerful changes in my own life. It all started with an internal awakening when from being sick and tired with my old ways of being. I used to be shy, insecure and introverted. I used to be passionless and blame others for my misery. I had no deep friendships and girls were not attracted to me. All this has changes now as I made a decision to commit to life long learning and the cultivation and embodyment of the strongest version of myself.

Most of what I have done has been kept to myself and only been shared with people close to me. Yet for 2023 I decided to share my journey publicly. Firstly I do this because it help me be accountable with my own goals. Next, writing about it gives me loads of joy and it helps me to solidify my experiences as well as get a firmer grasp of the concepts I talk about. Lastly my hope is to inspire you to make a decision to live your potential and embody the strongest version of yourself. I am looking forward to what this years will bring! Let´s rock it!

Here is a recap of the year 2022 from my side. At the beginning of 2022 I created a vision using the method that I shared about. If I had not done that chances are very high I would not even come close to achieving what I did and rather waste my time with low consciousness behaviours such as watching movies and going partying.

For me 2022 was all about growth and development. Here are some of my accomplishments:

That´s it! Hope you enjoyed this article and got value from it. Here is an action step for you. I want you to share your goals/ vision for 2023 and beyond down below. Looking forward to reading your responses :)

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